Psychic Sterling Sinclair: Personally I’m a Person Takes Personal Things Personal, September 2, 2014
Psychic Sterling Sinclair:
Personally I’m a Person Takes Personal Things Personal,
September 2, 2014
You can choose to psychologize your life or choose to change it.
Caution: if you honestly choose to change your life – you will change your life.
If we exist within one common, shared consciousness, we share a personal existence.
If we live an energetic interconnectivity, we live a mutual personal experience.
If these two things are true then “Don’t take anything Personally” is an impossible instruction –
a fantasy to relieve a human from personal hurt cast upon them by another person’s perception.
We do not live in isolation or as an inert object such as a discarded chunk of concrete well casing.
We are communal creatures sharing a communal existence.
They may possibly exist (you may even be one), but I have never met a person in my practice or in my social/family life who lets everything seemingly run off their backs like water off a duck unless they are cold, hard, self-centered people.
By not taking it personally, you also refuse to assess what it is that you are, carry, represent, or think that draws actions/comments/beliefs to come in your direction. You take no ownership of the passing of that love or hate or whatever found in between.
Laws of attraction and arguments of like forces seeking each other out and repelling each other become mute points if you can simply place yourself on an emotionally void island upon the pages of a fiction novel.
As long as we live, we commune.
As long as we die, we commune.
As long as we are persons, we are personal and will take things personally because that is simply the way it is.
To run from this acceptance is to run from self.
So what are you to do then?
Someone is mean to you and so you are to blame for that?
If someone is mean to you, there is something about you that is attracting that meanness.
It may be nothing that you are aware of.
You may have inherited it.
You may have picked it up along the way from another person.
Nonetheless, if you were not you then it would not have happened the way it did, if at all.
So if someone calls you “stupid” does that mean that you are? It may. However, what it reveals is a component of your being that either/both inspired, extracted and/or provided an avenue for the statement to come in your direction. If deep down you kind of wonder if you are stupid then you will likely be called stupid. If you mess up something and still did a better job than the person yelling at you it is likely because the person depended on you and “you are stupid” is a reflection of himself/herself coupled with his/her disappointment with your performance (he/she thought you could do something you could not). No matter the situation, you were called stupid because you in some way brought it on. Maybe you simply allowed the statement to be made and didn’t even know it.
What I help my clients do is understand the ripple effect they create and then help them change the ripples.
When someone throws a rock in your pond and your shore is altered by the waves they created, remember that it is your pond and you can reverse the waves or swallow up the rocks they toss and then stack them nicely upon the shore. You can alter the waves. But only after you realize that your pond has stray rocks laying around waiting to be thrown at you can that be done.
By taking it personally, you can choose how to behave.
A punching bag is not what my clients want to become.
They want to stop the punches.
They may even want to punch back.
But only with personal responsibility is that possible.
Choose to feel good by becoming Teflon or choose to feel good by affectively changing how people treat you are two different things.
To gain power and stand tall.
To understand the depths of oneself and abilities to alter ones world including nasty comments sent in your direction is how one empowers their sense of what they view is personal.
Instead of getting hurt by others, one eventually becomes stronger, more aware and more authentic. One does not have to avoid the sense of something being personal, one simply changes the pathway.
Sounds easy? Well it is relatively easy. But it requires you to look into your truth and the possible triggers and welcoming devices that you have.
Once identified, you can try to rid yourself of them or do one of 2 really magical things – use them as part of your personal identity and embrace you as you are OR choose to change them.
It really is like changing a piece of lint into a Corvette. You can change it.
Once the path is altered, so to do the projected comments and behaviors toward you.
But what about in times of war? The same principle happens. However, the energy and hate has become so overwhelming that it is nearly impossible without many people altering it, hence the reason for the prevention of war rather than ending one.
Remember, no matter what you change in yourself changes everything else.
Everything is personal.
You choose to change the path, the path not only changes direction but also changes in its quality. By taking it personally and changing it, you change the person who delivered it in the first place.
We live in community as one body.
You hurt me – I hurt you – you hurt you – I hurt me.
You love me – I love you – you love you – I love me.
We can choose to live as we live.
We are personal people and we take things personally.
We are communal people and we live in communion.
There is the secret.
Our symbiotic nature has interwoven a carpet of life within which we all live.
Today, you choose what to do with how you live.
By doing so, you will affect the way I live.
Today, I choose what to do with how I live.
By doing so, I will affect the way you live.
We live together.
Please take this statement personally,
I love you.
May we together be love.