Psychic Sterling Sinclair: Life’s Thrift Shop and Memories Worth Keeping – Remember, It’s time to Move Forward! August 17, 2014
Psychic Sterling Sinclair:
Life’s Thrift Shop and Memories Worth Keeping
Remember, It’s time to Move Forward!
August 17, 2014
I must confess, I am a thrift store junkie. I even owned one a while back. What astounds me is what I find on the shelves. Discarded cherished memories of special times and life events get there because someone decided to throw them out. A thrift shop is not a place where junk is thrown; it is a place where memories exist.
I cannot help but think that life is like that sometimes. Without memories, where does life go?
It is not uncommon to find cups, plaques, plates, shirts and ornaments that were bought on trips from around the world. Sometimes they are dated 20-50 years back and still labeled with special messages and the names of people who went on the trips. To someone, these souvenirs represented fun and happy times that were meant to be preserved. But something happened in their lives that resulted in these items being tossed.
I also find an abundance of photos filled photo albums, collectors’ plates and ornaments as well as entire sets of fine bone china, and 25th / 40th/ 50th/ 60th anniversary plates, cups, picture frames with pictures still in them and tea stained tea services. Sometimes, all of the anniversary years show up on the shelf on the same day – like someone simply threw out many years of marriage. The previous owner of these items collected them, cared for them and likely met fond memories every time he or she thought of them or saw them. Then, something happened in their lives and their memory triggers were discarded.
A thrift shop is not a junk graveyard but rather an inexpensive depository of memories.
As a psychic and life coach I meet many people who are going through difficult times. When we have a divorce, for example, the relationship becomes clouded. We look at years and years of bad times and have a tendency to overlook the good times. Sometimes, we overlook years of good times because of one bad time. The negative darkens the mind and the positive is forced deep back into the shadows. We forget how we felt at one time for our partner. We prevent ourselves from acknowledging that we had really good times at times. The ridding ourselves of those memories, do not free us but rather trap us in the negative. We inevitably prevent ourselves from living.
I often hear, “I was so stupid to fall in love with him.” Do not do that yourself. Love is a strange thing. When we fall in love, we fall in love. When difficult times hit, we punish ourselves by stripping the last notions of our lives from us. We lose identity and personal value. We forget who we are. We simply toss them to the side – sometimes hoping for another person to pick them up and them home.
When loved ones die, the people remaining grieve in their way. Some people grieve by immediately cleansing. Some people hold on. Some people get angry and clean up. Some people do nothing. We all do it differently but one thing remains the same – we face blurred memories of life while we are grieving. We make decisions that we would normally not make, like donating our mother’s international bell collection or sand art dogs to a thrift shop. Some of us decide to throw out “junk,” “clutter,” and stuff just because that is what it is in that mindset.
Recall the old saying, “Don’t throw out the baby with the bathwater?” Well this is an example.
The bathwater goes out in our lives and the babies end up buried in junk piles or carelessly heaped upon thrift shop shelves yearning for someone to adopt them and take home and care for them again. Once they are gone, the memory triggers are gone too.
In a state of hurt, anger, frustration, sadness, or confusion, we look at our lives and start ridding ourselves of the painful. In that process, we often accidentally rid ourselves the most special memory triggers in life.
Be careful not to discard special, love filled times when you are cleansing yourself of the negative. not let the negative blanket your life.
As a reader of memories and as a communicant with the other side, I truly believe that it is the living memories of fond times that keep us moving forward and our passed loved ones actively rejoicing in our lives, minds and hearts. Our memories transcend death.
A fond memory may very well be the most special thing you have.
By preserving your special memories, the good times in life help us move forward. We are reminded that we are/were loved. We see life through a positive light.
Sometimes, a memory trigger, no matter how small and seemingly insignificant, may to us, be a priceless gift worth keeping.
Today, remember good times.
I send you my love.