Psychic Sterling Sinclair Writing of the Day, “Love, Friendship, Grapevines and a Fence,” February 15, 2013
Psychic Sterling Sinclair Writing of the Day
February 15, 2013
“Love, Friendship, Grapevines and a Fence”
The pathways of love wind around like grapevines on a fence. Pruned and nurtured, they grow fruit for countless years. Ignored, they quickly grow out of control; struggling to grow small amounts of fruit until they strangle each other. If the grapevines don’t completely dry up and die, with a little care and pulling out the dead wood, the grapevines begin to grow new shoots and soon, a bounty of fruit they produce.
To have a good friend and not have a fight, argument, disagreement or even a parting of ways is virtually impossible. The deeper the passion or love for each other and the relationship, the more that friends are inclined to tangle around each other on the same fence. Sometimes, tangling results in a sense of a lack of caring. Suddenly, the friends reaching out are viewed as the friends being judgemental and controlling. In order to avoid being choked out, the vines try to find other fences upon which to grow, but their roots stay put, preventing the vines from growing too far away from each other.
When difficulties arise and best friends are separated (especially by words or establishing personal lifestyle boundaries) love becomes strained. Love cannot simply find a new fence upon which to grow. Love remains rooted somewhere back where it once thrived. Just because the old fence was replaced by a new fence, it doesn’t mean that the grapevines of love simply turn to hate. No. They deal with the shock of a new fence being suddenly built and then learn to grow and thrive with each other once again.
Yes, the fence is new. Yes, we may know something about our friend that we didn’t know before. Yes, we feel hurt by knowing that our friend doesn’t condone everything in our lives or think the same way that we think or does not always have an open ear to listen. But NO! It doesn’t mean that we stop and erase love or the fact that we continue to grow beside or even with each other.
Have you ever had a falling out with a friend/colleague? Every day at work and home can become a strain. You want to push pain further away but love keeps driving you close together. As far as offices are concerned, you both may be driven into the same lunch room, washroom, or meeting room. There is no way of avoiding each other. Therefore, mutually agreeing to clear out the dead wood, prune the bad growth and welcome the new growth, and to once again grow upon the same fence is needed to work in a love and peace filled environment. You may not be able to do all of the same things together, but maybe that is best. If you both still like the same books, the same music, the same recreational activities, or whatever, you still have more than enough in common to grow with each other once again. By doing this, the atmosphere at home and the office becomes lighter and more open to an abundant life.
By good friends refusing to face each other and accept each other’s differences and love, the refusal of friendship begins to chop away at one’s own root system thereby progressively and painfully killing oneself off or opening wounds for negativity to enter into one’s life (especially times when you absolutely least expect it).
It is true that your friendship will not be the same as before because the new fence has forced you both to grow and thrive in different patterns, but as you grow, the weight of unspoken pain and anger carried upon the soul will eventually collapse the fence altogether. As you once loved and friendship once stabilised the old fence, love can and will hold up the new fence too, maybe even stronger this time.
Remember, love is like grapevines growing on a fence – a little nurturing and pruning will bring it back to life, no matter how long after the fence has collapsed and the fruit have dried up.
Love can bring you together and an abundance of happy fruits can grow once again.