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Do Taboo Deaths Require Silent Grief? Sterling Sinclair Posts about his Nephew’s Death by Suicide Twice on Facebook and Receives One Condolence Comment.  Is such a Response Expected?  If so, why? October 24, 2017

Do Taboo Deaths Require Silent Grief? Sterling Sinclair Posts about his Nephew’s Death by Suicide Twice on Facebook and Receives One Condolence Comment. October 24, 2017  
  

To be fair, my post was a comment with a link to the following post regarding both mention of my nephew’s death and the topic of suicide.  It wasn’t a “I’m feeling down today because I miss him” post, which would have invited a supportive response.  I wrote the post in such a way because I felt that maybe he may be able to save a life out there.  

Link: to the Blog Post Regarding Suicide and the Death of Sterling’s Nephew
I have a Master of Divinity from Victoria University and the University of Toronto. I concentrated my studies and training on counselling – primarily grief/death & dying/infirm/hospice.  

Taboo topics were seldom raised in the university classrooms but were common concerns during my training. The secret pain people carried became even more so prevalent as the people I visited grew older or faced their own approaching death. 

One of the most powerful lessons that I learned was that as we face our own death, we begin to purge ourselves from our guilt, negative perceptions, awful memories, hate, and more than anything else – suppressed grief. 

Before we die, we grieve.

As for accidental death, it is difficult to confirm this pre-death grieving process but if we take a moment and reel back the days before our loved one died by accident, we often recall him/her/they making grief and/or other purge related statements.  

Sometimes, we recall the person’s behaviour changing in ways indicative of the purge.  

We more often than not discount or let the statements and behaviours flow on by. We all do. If you did and missed the signs, you are not alone. With no context – without knowing that an accident is to happen – we simply miss the clues. We must not beat ourselves up if this happened to us.  

When I began offering private spiritual sessions (once I hung up my collar) I was shocked to find the extent of secret pain people carried. I have sat with over 2000 people and well over 80% of them carried this grief. In the cases whereby discussion revolved around the topic, almost all of the people were uplifted after purging or revealing the pain that had been long hidden. 

The most traumatizing pain appeared to be related to taboo causes of death. They were revealed in this decreasing magnitude of silence.

1/ terminating the life of one’s own child (death by accident, termination of pregnancy including miscarriage and abortion, and not noticing the signs that could have possibly stopped the death).

2/ suicide

3/ overdose or laced drug

4/ alcoholism

5/ abuse

6/ murder

So it is no wonder that my posts regarding suicide and the anniversary of my nephew’s death were met with one condolence comment. 

One may be surprised by this list but it appeared in this order over and over again. With that said, many women have argued that they have no grief due to abortion. I have been in enough sessions to witness this to be untrue with the majority of my clients who have terminated their pregnancies. It is for this reason that such death (again considered not death by some because they hold the opinion that an unborn child is not alive), is one that involved suppressed grief. I don’t want to side rail this post with the topic of abortion but I felt that I needed to address the controversy.

Nonetheless, we as a culture of selective public grieving pick and choose what is okay and not okay to grieve over. We have our limits to the type and amount of pain that we can handle. We don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings and we don’t want to publicly portray ourselves as monsters, weak, frail, neglectful, bad, people.  

Many of us are unwilling to mention a topic of suicide and when we do, we wash ourselves clean of any guilt or wrongdoing by posting “get help” phone lines and sharing mental health posts. No matter how we paint the picture, if our loved one dies, we deal with it. No matter the level of pain and loss, we experience pain and loss. 

The silence regarding these taboo deaths needs to stop. They need to be pulled out of our closets and thrown into the centre of the street. In so doing, we can more openly support each other. The silence and secrecy and suppression of our grief, feeds debilitating and self-deprecating thoughts. Our behaviours toward others, especially our loved ones is altered, and far too often altered negatively.   

I knew a man who accidentally ran over his child at a construction site.  He never remembered doing it.   He never could find his way again. Everyone suffered. It was almost never spoken of as the years passed. He grieved alone at night, in the truck driving to work, and in prayer. He built a wall around himself and yet at nighttime when alone, he cried himself to sleep for many years. 

I know a woman whose father shot off his head.  She was a young woman with children and young siblings. She still cannot remove from her memory of cleaning up the remains of her parent. She wanted to do so quickly so that her family would not have to see it too. She changed that day, so too likely her siblings and extended family. She felt that she needed to be strong and silent. She turned to alcoholism and she took her grief-fed-pain and turned it into abusive anger. Only a few people knew of the extent of her pain. Now that she grows older, the nightmares are visiting and interrupting her sleep. She even sleeps in another room from her husband because she doesn’t want him to witness these unconscious expressions of her secrets.

We all deal with death in our own ways. Most of the time, we need to keep on getting on. We need to survive and we need to care for our surviving loved ones. We need to keep moving forward. Let’s face it, getting back to everyday, regular activities can be good medicine but not at the expense of our grief.  

I am kind of hurt that only one friend gave their condolences on Facebook when I posted, but I understand any of the reasons why they may not have wanted to do so.  

  

With that said, I think some friends expressed their condolences by “liking” the post.  Also, I felt heard, however, because some friends shared the post.  It was very brave of them to do so because if just mentioning grieving due to one of these taboo ways to die, then posting about it on social media is waaaaaaaay taboo.  
The point that I wanted to make with this blog post is that whether a friend’s loved one died of a long life struggling with cancer or whether a friend’s loved one died due to suicide, the friend is still grieving over the death of their loved one.  
If we are to remove the taboo label off of certain causes of death, we must as a society view death as death no matter how someone dies. In so doing, we may more openly support each other as we, in our own ways, grieve over the deaths of our loved ones. 
Let go of the shackles of silence.  
We can move beyond this, 

S

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Former Medium, Psychic Sterling Sinclair Writes a Poetic Message Inspired by Gord Downie of the Tragically Hip. Downie Calls on Canadians to Work Toward Alieviating the Suffering and Alienation of Canada’s First Peoples. October 19, 2017

Former Medium, Psychic Sterling Sinclair Writes a Poetic Message Inspired by Gord Downie of the Tragically Hip. Downie Calls on Canadians to Work Toward Alieviating the Suffering and Alienation of Canada’s First Peoples. October 19, 2017
  
Gord Downie writes a poem /lyrics through Sterling Sinclair a couple of days after Downie died. 

For David Bowie, I sat down and let him inspire words to be written through me during a trance state. It was a beautiful piece. It was well received by few and violently opposed by several more. Nonetheless, it was a magnificent moment for me. I was glad to record such an amazing piece for grieving Bowie fans. 

So this morning, I felt an urger to draw to process my emotions and as I was drawing the Auracature lines, words began to pour out upon the page. In these words, he calls for all of us to seek fair compensation, reconciliation, justice for Canada’s first peoples.  

Video: Sterling Sinclair Reads Poem / Lyrics Inspired by Gord Downie Post-Death
Gord Downie poem

Oct 19, 2017

“Her Children Die from Centuries of Pain

Kick off your shoes – go dance in the rain.”
“Together We Are One”

By Sterling Sinclair
“Remember not me

Remember the work to be done

It was never about my battle

Their stories had to be sung
The battle’s not over

Much work’s need done

We fight the battle together

Until the battle is won
Upon blood soaked prairies

She gathers her young

How’d she wake in her mourning

Her fallen knight was her son
How can she see the light

From fear we mustn’t run

Look into her black brown eyes

Reserved, her soul was shunned
The fight to live’s not over

The fight has just begun.

Oh Canada, do you even listen?

Sorrow is being Sung
Grieve not my recent passing

Seeking justice is not fun

My death is not the message

I’m a husband, father, son
First peoples are in danger

No matter the spin that is spun

Pour your tears upon the lands

Cuz, healing’s barely begun
If you honour my memory

If I am Canada’s true son

Instead of being saddened

Go out and help someone
The war will be over

The battle will be won

When all people come together

And together we are one.”
Much love and Many Blessings, S


#MeToo: Sterling Sinclair, A Sexual Assault Survivor, Reads a Poem about the Quest for Truth, October 17, 2017

#MeToo: Sterling Sinclair, A Sexual Assault Survivor, Reads a Poem about the Quest for Truth, October 17, 2017

  
Sterling Sinclair Reads the Poem 

#metoo I wrote this poem a few years back. It concludes: I keep walking into tomorrow, no matter what happened to me yesterday. I do not know your pain. But I know the feeling of keeping sexual assault buried in secret vaults at which I laid flowers of grief for many years. I am still not sure if opening the vault was a good idea. We all deal with assault differently and in our own ways. I think that is why I like this poem so much. It asks unanswerable questions but speaks to heart of survival.
Much love, S 


Sterling Sinclair Artistically Begins Curse Dismantling Through Psychic Auracature Art Creation: First 3 Images.  Can You Spot the Revelatory Pattern? Oct. 16, 2017

Sterling Sinclair Artistically Begins Curse Dismantling Through Psychic Auracature Art Creation: First 3 Images. Can You Spot the Revelatory Pattern? Oct. 16, 2017

  
One of the major reasons spell castors don’t like my work is because they don’t understand how it works.  It does not require conjuring, sacrifice, or deals with external energy patterns. The images preexist thought.  Hence, they are truly non-sense.  

The images in themselves carry no positive or negative infused energy.  What they do is record the patterns of energy shifts and they inspire the viewer/artist their own natural unlimitted potential.  In short, if you are capable of being strong, an Auracature created for you most likely will help you recover your strength – not get it from another source.  

I was at a social gathering recently where I met some people who in no way think highly of me or my work.  Either they or others inspired by their presence made powerful negative suggestions that the ethers have allowed to fester.  In short, I know not who it is who has ill-wished me and we don’t need to know.  

  
The following Auracatures are not designed as images to inspire retaliation.  They are to condition the ethers around me so that my heart can find strength and reconfirm identity. 
However, as an Auracature artist, my focus is to encourage not only the viewers but also myself to carry on.  

The patterns repeated in the Auracatures confirm that a spell/curse/ill-wish/or dark shamanic “magic” is at play.  I ask that who ever has decided to hurt me, to please stop.  I truly mean you no harm.  Just back off and let me continue on my Healing Auracature Journey. 

Here are the 3 Auracatures.  Notice the similarities. 

   
   
I pray that this negative influence flees my personal space and the space around the ones who have begun seeing me in a negative light. 

Much love and many blessings, S


Sterling Sinclair Reads a Psychic Channel From 2005 as He Stands Tall on the Battle Front between Evil and Good, Darkness and Light, for He seeks Balance and tries to See Beauty and Worth in Both.  October 16, 2017

Sterling Sinclair Reads a Psychic Channel From 2005 as He Stands Tall on the Battle Front between Evil and Good, Darkness and Light, for He seeks Balance and tries to See Beauty and Worth in Both. October 16, 2017

  
Video: Sterling Sinclair Reads a Section of the Above Channel

This is a channeled writing that I thought was lost. In December of 2007, about 300 prophetic messages were suddenly destroyed. I had begun my own radio program that showcased these messages. Within 2 days and in 3 separate locations they were lost to fire, flood and hard-drive crash. This is one of the collection that survived. 

If you know me and my work, you know that I was born straddling the line between the light and the darkness and later I professionally mediated between the sides.  

As a little boy, I dreamed and dreamed snd dreamed that demons could be saved and their wings returned. 

  
After working in the sphere of spirituality for 23 years, I have come to the conclusions that: to rise out of pain, one must first let go of the pain; the goal to u and universal health is not to rid the darkness or the light from your self, it is to find a balance between light and dark. 

Grey is not balance. Grey is not an option to accept. Black and White, both in their bounteous beauty, dancing the dance that only they as equal partners can dance.  

When I was younger, I was beaten because I was considered a demon. When I grew older, I was beaten down because I was considered an angel. 

This sorrowful reality of struggling to find balance while without judgement of either side, I seek to help, to love, to facilitate peaceful togetherness.

 As you can likely tell, not an abundance of peaceful togetherness is happening on the global stage. We must remain awake. We must awaken the ones who have fallen asleep.

I hope that you find a life affirming sensation from this channel.  

  
Much love and many blessings, S


Sterling Sinclair Spirit Sings a Song of “The Awakening” a Prophetic Auracature Art Channel Message from 2013

Sterling Sinclair Spirit Sings a Song of “The Awakening” a Prophetic Auracature Art Channel Message from 2013

The Awakening    

Video of me Singing these Channelled Lyrics
Blue gasses consumed 
By a gulf of lost souls

Climbing across

The land of destitution.

 

The ship’s fluid glass

Engulfing my family

Spirits 

Searching for a new home.

 

I cry crimson disorder

Swirling 

About our pod 

Of containment.

 

Cryogenics

An invention of avoidance,

Freezes the mind.  

Detaching years of unexplainable experiences.

  

Can you feel the awakening?

Can you feel the awakening?

OH the awakening.

Can you hear them?

   

Why must we stop 

In a land without salvation?

Eons

Hurling through space.

 

We slow

Near this netherworld

Of interpretations

And interruptions.

  

Was our world 

That bad?

I cannot recall

The sight.

 

I smell

The scent of burning butterfly wings 

It overwhelms 

My memories of home.
I smell

The scent of burning butterfly wings 

It overwhelms 

My memories of home.

 

Shall we go back to sleep?

Shall we go back to sleep?

Shall we go back to sleep?

Go back to sleep?
The commander says…

“No.”
Peace be with you, 

Sterling Sinclair

 


A Channelled Thanksgiving Message and Auracature Image of Hope, Living and Life by Psychic Sterling Sinclair, October 6, 2017

A Channelled Thanksgiving Message and Auracature Image of Hope, Living and Life by Psychic Sterling Sinclair, October 6, 2017  
I felt the urge today to channel an Auracature message. So many of us find celebrations like Thanksgiving very difficult to deal with. Many of us struggle to be happy. Many of us struggle to live. This message is a welcome one on this day. Live and live, for this life, we live. 

YouTube Recording of Sterling Reading the Blessing
On my enriching walk in the woods as mentioned in the video, I took these 3 photos. It was a profound affirming moment for me. When I returned to my studio, I recorded the above message.  

I hope you can sense a moment of awe too. 

   
   
Happy Thanksgiving

Live Life Live Life Live Life

Love, Sterling